My mind immediately retreated to a beautiful young 12 year old girl who I met last year when interviewing for a show I was working on. This beautiful girl happened to be pregnant...at 12. If there was one thing I could wish for this sad and beautiful soul it would be to give her a loving, caring and doting father figure. Because I'm convinced her lack of such father figure is part of what led her to that classroom for pregnant middle school girls. I remember wishing she could meet my husband or my dad as she cried about her own father who was in prison for raping a girl about her age. I wished she could know there are good men, caring and wonderful men out there...not all men are jerks like the countless boyfriends who beat her mother or the boyfriend who wanted nothing to do with her once he found out she was pregnant. Meeting a helpless child like this makes an imprint on ones heart...and has made me even more thankful for having such a loving and devoted father.
My plan was to call my dad after Brunch and wish him a happy father's day...but he beat me to it. Before brunch I found an email from dad in my inbox that brought tears to my eyes. I want to share part of what he sent ME and MY SISTER on father's day:
...it occurred to me
once again I have gone way to long without telling both of you how proud I
am to be you father - as a dad, I have always hoped and worked to make sure
you were responsible and reliable plus hoped you would pursue your dreams and
passions - mom and I have wondered often how we were so lucky with you two
as our offspring. We are thrilled about your parenting (and your spouses too!) and
I am filled with pride when someone asks about each of you - I don't try to go over
board with details but at times that happens. Then I realize I can easily gush about
each of you and your families with many different folks, but seldom do with the two
most important people mom and I know - so keep on being who you are and know
the very best any dad could wish for is to have daughters like I do!! And what grandsons
too - wow - it is like the daily double twice!!!!
Love you both - hope all is going well in IL and CA or NV!
I look forward to watching Gunnar develop a similar bond with his daddy...though I know it will be different. Father/son dynamics are a different animal, I suppose. But John is already proving to be a doting dad and I couldn't ask for a better partner in raising children. He helps out around the house without being asked (amazing!) and loves to spend every waking minute with Gunnar when he gets home from work. It's only fitting that Gunnar spent the day saying "Dadda". He has a great one.